Here are 10 Signs of a Cheating Spouse, and suggestions of what you can do about it.
Finding out about a cheating spouse, or partner can be very painful. Don’t overreact and do anything irrational. Instead, take a deep breath, and decide how you are going to get your revenge.
- Gut Check – You probably know your spouse better than most people. If your gut tells you that something is strange about your spouse’s behavior and you suspect something, check into it further.
- Lack of Sexual Desires – If your spouse is usually sexually active, but then suddenly doesn’t feel like it, or gives you other excuses for not wanting sex, your spouse could be cheating. Remember that pressure at the workplace, or financial pressures could also be a reason.
- Lack of Interest at Home – If your spouse normally participates in things that go on in the home, but suddenly shows no interest (in the kids, mowing the lawn, etc.) there could be something going on.
- The Paper Trail – If you suspect your spouse is cheating, it would be a good idea to start looking for receipts. You might start finding an increase of meals at restaurants, tickets to movies and even hotel receipts.
- Unexpected Financial Problems – If your spouse suddenly starts having financial problems for no apparent reasons, try looking for credit card receipts and invoices. If there are orders for flowers, chocolate, meals at expensive restaurants, and none of it was for you, start digging deeper.
- Strange Reactions on the Phone – If your spouse suddenly becomes quiet when you enter a room while they are on the phone, or quickly hangs up, there might be a love on the other end. Try to write down the time of the conversation, and later get access to the phone records, or cell phone records. Try to find out who the most frequent numbers belong to, and you might find a lover.
- Sudden Interest in Looks – If your spouse begins to spend too much time in front of the mirror, or begins to wear perfume, or cologne more often than usual, it might be because they’re trying to impress someone from the opposite sex.
- Strange Hair and/or Lipstick – Did you find lipstick on your husband’s collar? Maybe you continue to find hair that doesn’t belong to your spouse, or you. Again, it might be a good time to start investigating the matter.
- Extra Cellphone – Does your spouse have an extra cellphone that you don’t have the number to? This might be used to secretly contact a lover. Try to find out the telephone number, or look for phone bills.
- Hard Facts – Sometimes, your spouse’s lover might have talked about it to someone else, and the information gets back to you. Or, maybe you find condoms inside your husband’s suit jacket, jeans, or briefcase. Again, it’s time to start gathering further information.
Three Options After You Discover Your Spouse is Cheating
- Confront Them – This is not suggested, because it might make your spouse more secretive, and it will be more difficult to discover what is really happening.
- Gather Information for the Court – Start doing your detective work, and get hard facts that you can use against your spouse in court. If you end up in divorce court, you could take your spouse to the cleaners. This is always a good option.
- Get Immediate Revenge – If you decide this option, you can still gather information that can be used later in court, but you could also be proactive, and get revenge by disrupting your spouse’s life. You can make your spouse think that maybe it’s the lover’s boyfriend, or girlfriend that’s causing problems. Or, you can use other revenge tactics that aren’t even related to your spouse’s infidelity. This is a better course of action, because you can make your spouse’s life miserable for a long period of time, and they won’t become suspicious of you.
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